The Dating Site
During a lovely celebration I got chatting to a guest who is a tantra expert.
She had been on a dating site and been asked out. Her response was to move the meeting as she had a slight hangover.
Her date replied that she couldn’t be spiritual as she had clearly been drinking?
When I heard her story, it occurred to me to ask, where is this man’s compassion?
Why didn’t he offer some empathy to her and wish her better? He thought he was spiritual, yet his first response was of judgment. Little did he know that this lady is a caring nurse in her spare time and has quite a bit more compassion than him.
No. 1, Use your heart’s compassion instead of judgement
- Relating to or affecting the human spirit or soul as opposed to material or physical things.
My definition as a child was that this was normal.
It was only later on that I learned this was extraordinary and that ‘normal’ people didn’t see the world as I did.
Yet, because of these gifts of sight, I always knew how to read people and see in between the lines and hear truth. My lessons were never spiritual lessons, they were physical.
How to function in a world where so many were in denial of their own truth and the laws of the universe? I learned how to control this sight of mine and not say everything I could perceive.
I learned over time to take the physical world as ‘real’ even though my senses told me otherwise.
I learned to forget what I knew! Thanks to meditation and my life path,
discovered how to open up my intuitive senses after shutting them down.
When I finally gave up fitting in, I found I fit in!
Lessons are often like that for me, when I let go or surrender, what I looked for arrives in unexpected ways.
Later on, I met people who wanted to see what I did and their journey became their spiritual awakening.
I found out I could help them and serve my purpose.
No. 2, be courageous enough to Practice empathy
A few years ago I was lucky enough to have a stall on a well-being festival. The place was jam packed with healers. An unfortunate man who suffered from a form of tourette's syndrome and heard voices was shouting for someone to help him. All the healers sat there and watched. I waited to see what would happen, no one was going to help him. I moved forward to help only to find the owner of the exhibition was talking to him, calming him down. Later on, he came to a workshop I was running and spoke out a few profanities and shouted. I looked on to see if any of the other healers would help him, they did not. I did and spoke to the man and calmed him down.
I have to say, I was astounded that these self- proclaimed healers were not going to go out of their comfort zones to help an unfortunate soul, merely because he was himself and showed his suffering in a boisterous way.
No. 3, be brave and step out of your comfort zone.
Recently a fellow healer reached out to large groups of other healers to help her in her time of need. Her beloved cat had run out the back door when it was mistakenly left open.
I told her what I knew about cats and tuned into hers at the time. I knew this cat was hunting as I had a clear vision of her doing that. I told the lady what I saw. I couldn’t give her an exact location but knew she was in the neighbourhood.
Later on this lovely lady messaged me thanking me. I thought nothing of it. I knew she was suffering and it was natural to reach out. In her message she said I was the only the one of all her healing network that responded. I thought that odd. I posted her request on my facebook page and back up into other healers’ groups. I hope by now, more have responded.
No. 4, Allow kindness to express itself
(C) Alexandra P. Brown