Take a look at these top beliefs and lies.
My happiness is from outside events that I have no control over. The belief that we have no control over our own happiness sets us on a path to upset and disappointment. This is a belief that happiness only happens to a few ‘selected’ others. That somehow it’s fine for others but doesn’t work for you.
I did it and want it MY way. Everyone must have goals or targets in life, but if the outcome of your goals is your main or only reason for happiness, you could be living with unreasonable expectation of yourself and others. Naturally, if you check in with the energy of all that is, there are often some better ways to achievements than just 'your way'. Check to see if you are imposing unreasonable expectations on yourself and other loved ones in your life.
Happiness is defined by my achievements. Many people’s egos urge them to believe that their value and happiness is defined by external factors like work, achievements, targets. This could be a raise at work, a sporting event or game, or winning an argument with a spouse, friend or lover. Check to see if you are punishing yourself or others over having not yet achieved all you wish in life.
To be loved, I must be agreeable to others. Some people find it really hard to say no. Others find it equally hard to say yes. You may have said no a few times, seen upset in people’s faces, and vowed to be a yes person. The problem here is that this may result in you giving up your own life to enhance that of others. This can appear to be generous. In fact, there’s nothing wrong with being kind, loving and generous. The problems occur if you become resentful over what you have given. They can also happen when you don’t know how to say no because of fear of what others may think. You may have a fear that you are unlovable and unwanted if you displease someone else who has the above belief, ‘’ I did it and want it all MY way.’’ Equally, those who find it hard to say yes to friends, lovers or spouses may hold the same belief that it has to be done ‘their’ way always.
I must be approved and loved by others. You may wish for the approval of others. It can become a painful obstacle if you build your life around satisfying others, and procrastinate, or forget about your own needs. This can lead to one or all of the three R’s, resentment, rejection, regret.
If only I had time … Some people often tell themselves they don’t have time to do what they truly want to. There are 2 issues in that. This can be an excuse designed to give us an easy way out of our fears of failure or success. Two, if we are truly that busy, most likely you are giving attention to what is more important to you, but you may not have told yourself the truth in that. I remember being asked how I found time to make my own mayonnaise. During that time I was running my own business, home, relationship, travelling a lot, and teaching numerous courses. I have time to do whatever I want to. You can make time for all, in order to have a full life. You may need to start changing some core beliefs.
A white lie never hurts. This is one of the biggest lies of all because it creates upset. If you try to protect yourself from life by lying, you are wounding yourself. Sometimes in life we must experience upset in order to know what true success, love, and happiness is,. If you find you have experienced too much disappointment, it’s time to change your belief system. Start by knowing it’s alright to learn through joy now. If you want to learn through joy, Theta Healing can help you. Take a look at our session’s page to discover what subconscious beliefs are no longer serving you.
What are your favourite lies that people tell themselves… or should stop telling? You are welcome to fill in the comments form and share your experiences or questions.